Something’s been very cool since Kayliana turned four – she’s been asking a lot of questions about being adopted. Last week, when we were driving to swim lessons, she asked me, “Where was I before I was here?” I wasn’t entirely sure that I understood her question, but I went with it. I told her some details about how she came to be. I won’t lie, I may have told her story in a way slightly similar to the birth of Christ – listen, I’m not saying she’s the Messiah, but she’s pretty dang special.
I told her that there was a family – a Mike and Jenny and a Matthew and Zachary – and they heard God tell them that their family needed a little girl. Meanwhile, there was a young woman named Mia, who found herself with child. She so loved that child (and God so loved that family) that God told Mia that little baby would be the baby for this family…
“Daddy and I couldn’t wait to meet you. We went to the hospital when you were two days old. We got to see you for the first time. We loved you so much right away, but we actually loved you before you were even born. Before Birth Mom Mia chose us to be your family, we loved our baby girl. When Birth Mom Mia put you in my arms…”
This is Kayli’s favorite part of the story and she will tell anyone interested. She took over and said, “When Birth Mom Mia put me in mommy’s arms I FIRST TOOTED!!!” And then she laughs and laughs. Yep, ‘tis true. The first thing Kayliana did was pass gas the moment I held her…she’s been full of surprises ever since.
I went on to tell Kayli how we put her in her car seat and drove to the bus stop. We picked up Matthew from school in the afternoon. It was a super rainy day and everyone at the bus stop had umbrellas and they were all crowding around to see our new baby girl. Matthew got in the van and looked at his new baby sister and just grinned from ear-to-ear.
A little while after we got home, Grandma and D-dad came to see their new baby granddaughter and they had Big Brother Zachary with them. Zach took one look at Kayli and just started laughing and laughing and laughing. He couldn’t believe that the baby girl we’d prayed about for so long was finally here.
That night, the boys sat in the big cozy rocking chair (the one still in her room). They rocked her and sang a lullaby and then Matthew said the thing that I’ll never ever forget, “I like Kayliana MORE than love. Like I don’t even know the word for it.”
I love this story. I love the fact that now Kayliana can really start to (try to) understand how amazing it is. I love her favorite part and that she loves telling it to people. And believe me, if and when you see her and you want to hear what she did when Birth Mom Mia first put her in Mommy’s arms, she’ll be SO happy to tell you!